Love is an expression of life, and life is the way we express love. Everything we say, do and think, is motivated by love and our quest to seek the things we love. Our love for family and friends drives us to sacrifice for them. Our love for career inspires us to work hard. Our love for ourself makes us seek the joys and pleasures in life.
But if love is the underlying intention for all our actions, why is so much pain and suffering created for ourselves and the people around? This is because we do not know how to express love freely, we do not know how to love, and so we create feelings of hatred, anger, jealousy, and anxiety as a by-product. When we want something we love, we fear not having it. When we have something we love, we fear losing it. And when we lose something we love, we fear never getting it back. All the pain and suffering we ever experience stems from fear which arises from love, because if we didn’t love anything, we wouldn’t fear anything. However, the problem isn’t love itself but the way we understand and communicate it. Below, we discuss the wholesome qualities of love and the healthy ways we should express it and nurture it.
Love is patient
Patience is a virtue that benefits all aspects of life. When we are angry, patience takes away its sting. When we are happy, patience ensures we remain rooted in our values. When we are overwhelmed with emotions, patience takes away the impulse to react, giving us time to think and respond. When we feel stressed or anxious, patience enables us to view things from a broader perspective and a higher ground so we can make wiser decisions. When we love others with deep patience, we become the best version of ourself – the calm and stable person we should be. Then we can be the source of strength and wisdom that everyone needs, being the solution to problems that arise instead of being the problem itself.
Love is forgiving
Real forgiving is rooted in deep understanding and strong empathy. We understand that the hurtful actions of others are a result of their own suffering and ignorance and instead of holding it against them, we give them time and space to reflect and learn. With a sincere forgiving mind, there is no room for anger, ill will, or hostility. Instead, our hearts are full of patience, compassion, and empathy, the qualities of real love that inspire growth while cutting off the cycle of suffering fuelled by hatred and pettiness.
Love is generous
Generosity is always thinking about others’ needs? What can I provide them? How can I improve their lives? When love is inspired with generosity, the object of our love is not ourself but is the wellbeing of others. We are trying to bring them happiness and comfort by viewing their success as our success. Seeing them smile naturally brings a smile to our faces. This is the depth of love we are capable of generating when we have sincere generosity and it leads to the wonderful feeling of connectedness with everyone and everything, including life itself.
Love is joyful
Joy transcends the experience of mere happiness and pleasure which is transient but is the emotional dimension of a pure, wholesome life. It is a gratifying, long lasting and reliable source of happiness and is a consequence of living a meaningful life. To share the power of real joy with others, our love for them must lead to their long-term welfare, and provide for them the tools and conditions to live a fulfilling life. This means taking care of their education, health, spirituality, and faith, which is the foundation of true joy. The more joy we can spark within others, the greater the joy we inevitably experience ourselves.
Love is unconditional
Unconditional love is the highest form of love because it is free from all ‘ifs’ and ‘buts.’ It is Great love because it transcends all boundaries of race, religion, nation, age, gender, and class. When we learn to love someone unconditionally, we learn to love everyone else the same way because we take away the conditions someone needs to deserve our love. Then we are practicing pure in-discriminatory love which takes down all the barriers we perceive to exist between us and others. When all barriers are eventually stripped off, we feel the nirvanic joy of being one with life itself. To experience such a profound realm of love, we must decondition all the preconceived notions we have that determine who deserves our love and what makes others different from us. Ultimately, we all deserve love from one another, because when we take away all differences of discrimination, we are all the same. This sameness is called many different things by different religions, such as Enlightenment, or Nirvana, or God Essence, or Heavenly Bliss but they all represent the same spiritual realm where the source of love we embody is selfless, unconditioned and eternal. This is love of the highest form that we are all capable of. Life then becomes about the journey of returning back to our original nature, and it begins with understanding and practicing unconditional love.
Love is an expression of life, and life is how we express love. In many ways, life and love are synonymous. When we are ready to understand love, practice love and enjoy love, we also deepen our experience of life itself. Love is innate in all of us and is the very foundation of our being. To return to our original nature, we must practice love. Love is patience, love is forgiving, love is generosity, love is joyful, and love is unconditional. When the love we feel for others begins to show these qualities, we know we are going in the right direction.
May we all love one another the same way we want to be loved by others so that our world can return to its beautiful, pure, peaceful state.
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